4 In Dwarfism

Please Stop Taking Photos of Me

I remember the first time it happened. I was walking into my high school about 8 years ago and I heard a few kids across the lawn say, “Look, there is a dwarf, take a picture!”

This was when flip phones were the rage, they were a little less conspicuous than iPhones, but a bright flash made the photo official.

I remember walking away confused wondering why they would want my picture; I wasn’t famous!

As years progressed, cell phones became more popular and society became obsessed with taking photos with them. We take photos of EVERYTHING, our outfits, our shoes, and even our food before we eat it! I am not shaming this behavior because if you have ever seen my Instagram I do the exact same thing!

As this desire to capture every moment of the day via of our iPhone has increased so has the instances of strangers taking photos of me in public.

When I’m in my sweats running to the grab a few things in the grocery store.

Snap.

Out on a date with Andrew.

Snap.

Pumping gas.

Snap.

All of these mundane things I do every day has become a spectacle that needs to be captured by strangers simply because I was born with a physical disability.

I often try to approach the stranger that took my photo in order to tell them how it felt. Most people end up getting angry with me for accusing them of such a thing, or walk away while completely ignoring me.

Honestly, it is the most painful form of bullying that I have encountered because it takes my voice away.

The photo goes to who-knows-where and I am subject to ridicule and mockery without the ability to educate and inform people and lessen ignorance.

I am telling my story not for pity but to ask you on behalf of the people on my side of the camera, would you be my voice?

Will you stand up when you see a friend or a stranger taking a photo of someone in public and tell them it’s not okay?

If you get a photo from a friend of a person with a disability, will you tell them to stop and not pass it on?

 

I have so much hope for the next generation and can’t wait to see how technology can empower, connect, and encourage people with disabilities but I need your help! Let’s use these tools to lift each other up instead of tear another down!

 

Have a great Monday!!

XOXO Kate

 

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4 Comments

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    Kisha
    June 29, 2016 at 6:10 pm

    Since when did normal become an abnormality and requires picture taking? People can be very cruel. If you want to know about a persons disability just ask not point or share photos. It’s a sad shame that people can’t just accept someone for who they are whether big or small. God bless you and Andrew as you both go through this life.

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    Kathryn
    June 30, 2016 at 9:11 pm

    Great post. I usually encourage my sons (ages 7 and 5) to ask that person directly if they have questions about a disability/handicap. We have had some very interesting conversations with strangers about legs lost to factory equipment and arms lost in farming accidents. I feel the most important qualities I want to teach them are compassion and empathy. Yes, I’m happy if they get good grades, but are they good people? That’s what I care most about.

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    Ing-Mari Shafiebieg
    July 1, 2016 at 5:11 am

    A good post, but sad that this is a reality for so many people… I promise to stand by you and give you my voice ! I promise to educate as good as I can and fight ignorance on my end . Best wishes from a sunny Sweden ?

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    Sarah
    July 1, 2016 at 11:28 am

    I’m sorry Kate! I am absolutlet appalled by this and at horrified that a fellow human would be so disgusting. I promise that if I ever see anything like this I will speak up and I will raise my children to know that this is not that way we treat each other.

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